Dating Services – The female perspective on Online Dating

Have you ever thought about using a dating service? Men and women both use these services, but more men pay to find a female partner.

As an example, according to a recent survey, women made up 40 percent of the dating pool and men made up 60 percent on the dating service Match.com. Men are more likely to pay for dating services and many programs allow women to register for free while men have to pay a hefty fee.

Why is it that when it comes to a dating service, women are so reluctant to “put themselves out there?” It boils down to women not wanting to be seen as the aggressors in a relationship.

Women want to flirt, to be teased, to have a bit of a dance before a date is made. But on a dating website, women have to come out and say “I want a date. Here are the things I want in a man. Here are the things I offer” And that’s too blunt for many women.

But it doesn’t mean that men should despair about using dating services. While many women won’t start by putting up a profile of their own, they may browse through the profiles men have created. Once they see someone who looks interesting, they may be willing to create a profile so that they can contact the person.

Although the odds are stacked in favour of the women, there are still a fair number of women in the dating data banks.

Here’s some advice about how to use a dating service. Women love specifics. Don’t blend into the crowd. A lot of men say they like walks on the beach at sunset. Try saying something funny or different instead.

When you make a declarative statement in your profile, use the word “because.” For example, “I like foreign films because they remind me of the time I spent in France as an exchange student in high school”, “I like anime because I love my inner geek”. Not only does this explain your choices to your potential new girlfriend, it also helps you refine what you write.

Remember you’re not just writing about the things you have to offer in a relationship. You are also able to write about the things you’d like in a woman you are dating.

Many men don’t take full advantage when using a dating service. Women aren’t impressed with general terms like “no psychos please.” They need specifics, they need you to weed out the women who you would never spend more than one short date with. If more women were confident that a dating service date would lead to a meaningful relationship, they are more likely to use the service.

So, when using a dating service, women need you to be as specific as possible.